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Has anybody noticed the Thanks button?

DBOL777

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It is sad that virtually any groups or forums are filled with those who feel "entitled" to things simply for gracing them with their membership...the lack of constructinve participation is rampant throughout all the groups and forums..and for that matter, throughout society people seem to feel entitled and fail to express appreciation..
We must do things in the goups and forums remembering there are a select few who do appreciate things and do it for them...

Robbie
 

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I actually I noticed the problem with the "thanks" button yesterday when I was making the attempt to do so with a post and saw no results. Hopefully, all will work out fine ....
 

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This month

I just did a quick check on how many of my viewers used the Thanks button this month. The low was 1% (one person clicked thanks on five different posts). The high was 2.8%. This was during a month when my threads were viewed a total of several thousand times.

I am gratified that so many other posters feel the same way as I do about receiving a little approval for our posts, but have decided that the majority of the users who don't ever click the Thanks button haven't read this thread. It is sad and frustrating to realize that this thread was just an example of preaching to the choir.

In the future I will not keep track of how many people have viewed any of my threads and offered their thanks. It is just too depressing.

To my fellow posters and the ones who have appreciated this thread: thanks for your support and continued good wishes to you for all your support of Gay Heaven. I guess we will all have to be satisfied to let our happiness in sharing be our greatest reward.
Love to you all. :heart:
 

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I always make a point to click the thanks button...I like to let people know I appreciate something they've posted. :)
 

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I always make a point to click the thanks button...I like to let people know I appreciate something they've posted. :)

Thx for this, other should think so too^^
 

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If you stop the thanks button becoming a blackmail button maybe more people will use it. Surely thanks are due if you appreciate the content, not just because somebody posted it. To be asked for thanks before you know what you are looking it is bordering on bullying.
I agree. I must admit I don't always think to click "Thanks", because I am more used to fora on which any thanks comes in the form of an actual response post. I'll probably click it more often now - though I do think the expectation of thanks devalues the gesture somewhat. It's like a waiter asking for a tip, when a tip is supposed to be something initiated by the giver, as appreciation for good service.

One thing I will NOT do is require the reader to click Thanks before they can view something that I post. 50 expressions of "Thanks" in a situation like that does not really mean that 50 people were grateful and wanted to say so; it means 50 people wanted to view the content.

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Anyway, having now browsed the whole thread I find I am in a minority on this issue, so I'll start using the thanks button to keep people happy - but I don't intend to start counting the number of Thanks that get attached to my own posts.
 
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One of the most useless inventions of post war America was the talking cigarette machine. You put in your coins, pull out your pack of twenty coffin nails and the machine says "thank you". The punters soon realised that an automated thankyou is less than worthless and the idea was a flop.
An automatic thankyou generated by v bulletin here is hardly more convincing.
Which would you rather have, members enjoying your post without leaving a thanks or them leaving a thanks without enjoying the post?
 

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If I appreciate something I post an answer.

Correct!! But nonetheless I think it is too a commandment of courtesy to say "Thank you" if you like a post or a film. It shows the writer that he has not written all for nothing. If you are sitting in real life together with friends at your home or in a bar or a club and you are talking - you really wouldn't like to talk to them without any reaction of them, aren't you?!
 

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"btw. my pics are always hidden not to get thanks, but to protect from non members to see them. Though a thank or a comment is always welcome.
Maybe there should be a "Show" button and a "Thanks" button...."

My contribution.............^^
 

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"btw. my pics are always hidden not to get thanks, but to protect from non members to see them. Though a thank or a comment is always welcome.
Maybe there should be a "Show" button and a "Thanks" button...."

My contribution.............^^

Peter that is a wonderful and good suggestion. Perhaps someone of the technicians can transform this proposal.
 

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Peter that is a wonderful and good suggestion. Perhaps someone of the technicians can transform this proposal.

Thanks Shelter, if I remember right, my suggestion is older lol^^, but I appreciate ur post, thanks^^
 

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Any pics I post of myself also require it, not because I want the thanks that bad but just to prevent it from being visible to non members.
 

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F.e. I post certain baroque/classical/romantic music. Now imagine: Someone always says “thank you” to my musical posts. Would you not think too he likes the music I chose? Maybe I’m happy I’ve found someone who shares my taste but it turns out that he doesn’t and that’s it’s just supposed to be a simple gesture because I spend my time on this forum or something. So an undifferentiated use of the thank you button can also cause misunderstandings.

Yes, and that points to another issue; the existence of a semi-automated response acts as a discouragement to a manually generated one, where the user actually types it out and thinks about what they are typing.

It's a bit like the way the word "friend" has been debased on sites like Facebook and others. Last count, I had about 150 "friends" on XTube. There are only perhaps half a dozen of those that I actually value in any way, because they are people who have actually bothered to send a short message - or in some cases, not so short. When someone on there asks to be "Friends", I accept because anything else seems mean, but really all it does is put my name into a list on their profile page, and vice versa.
 

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Hello everybody but hello in particular to ihno and jeansGuyOZ!

Am I confusing or misunderstanding myself when I push the Thanks-button to your posts though I'm gonna disagree with you?

I really don't think so, so I'll stand by my position in a much earlier post in this thread :
1) I push the Thanks-button on every post I've actually read thanking the poster for the effort of posting, but not for the specific content. But isn't that a bit over the top? No it isn't considering how many members that almost don't do any posting at all, just downloading some juicy porn now and then - that's it! I consider every actual poster as a guy who makes an effort, and I really don't understand why I shouldn't push the Thanks-button.

2) But when I feel the need to explicitly agree or disagree (admire, loath, scold, give some extra info, give another perspective etc) I just make a post in the same thread saying so. I don't think that should be particularly difficult to understand.

3) The only time I conciously refrain from pushing the Thanks-button is when people actually write "thanks" (or some other appreciative one- or two-word comment) in stead of pushing the button.

Or -more seriously - when I see people making posts seriously out to hurt or damage individual members or the forum.
 

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perhaps people should stop trying to be so particular about their feelings and insist on having the last word all the time...The thanks button is meant to be clicked to show the poster the member felt the post important enough to read...not every post is downloaded...
People are pretty petty if they have nothing better to do that insist their views regarding expressing thanks are the only correct ones..

Robbie
 

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The thanks button is meant to be clicked to show the poster the member felt the post important enough to read...

I also think that way! ;)

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@ DBOL777 & haiducii

I totally agree with both of you!!!
 

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Hello everybody but hello in particular to ihno and jeansGuyOZ!

Am I confusing or misunderstanding myself when I push the Thanks-button to your posts though I'm gonna disagree with you?

I really don't think so, so I'll stand by my position in a much earlier post in this thread :
1) I push the Thanks-button on every post I've actually read thanking the poster for the effort of posting, but not for the specific content. But isn't that a bit over the top? No it isn't considering how many members that almost don't do any posting at all, just downloading some juicy porn now and then - that's it! I consider every actual poster as a guy who makes an effort, and I really don't understand why I shouldn't push the Thanks-button.

2) But when I feel the need to explicitly agree or disagree (admire, loath, scold, give some extra info, give another perspective etc) I just make a post in the same thread saying so. I don't think that should be particularly difficult to understand.

3) The only time I conciously refrain from pushing the Thanks-button is when people actually write "thanks" (or some other appreciative one- or two-word comment) in stead of pushing the button.

Or -more seriously - when I see people making posts seriously out to hurt or damage individual members or the forum.

You expressed my sentiments precisely. I click 'Thanks' on almost every post I read or download. I also 'Thank' many posts as appreciation for their effort to participate.

It's funny but reading some replies in this thread has made me feel a little self-conscious about giving too many 'Thanks'. I wonder if that was the point of those posts or some of my mental diagnostic software's feedback? ;)
 
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