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I'm 30, still virgin and I have skin problem - vitiligo

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Hi guys!
I'm new here. I discovered this forum a few days ago. I don't know other gay forum and I'm very happy found it!
I'd like to know yours opinions about guys with skin problems. From childhood I have skin disorder called vitiligo - white spots on your body. I still try cure it - sometimes with better or worse results. On the first look - people don't know about my skin disorder. I have some white spots on my fingers, face, feet and of course in my private parts - on penis and arse: the most interesting places for guys on my body. I have totally repigmented my legs, it's my biggest win.
I'm normal guy - go to the gym three times a week, I care a lot of my body, people think about me as handsome man, I'm tall and I have big cock.

I must say I'm 30 and never been with man, never tried sex. Always I was scared about dates, sex- because I have vitiligo. I work a lot, education and gym takes a lot of my time.
I tried meet with guys - they didn't know/saw my problem, but I ended it on first meeting - a lot of men were very stupid.

I would like ask you guys about date with person like me. What do you think about man with vitiligo? Would you like meet, have sex or be with vitiligo guy?
I'm very curious about it.

I'd like try sex, be bottom. I dream about top with big cock for my first time... I know it's stupid, but always I wanted get big tool.
 

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It would not bother me. However I know that some would need a little time to adjust. Honesty is the best policy so after a date or two or three, mention it and see what happens. You have nothing to feel ashamed about. Most people want companionship and security. They want someone who is trust-worthy. If you have these qualities, then the vitiligo should not be a big issue.

As you say, you go to the gym. So physically you have a bonus. Ask yourself, thinking only about the physical for a moment, which would you prefer in a sexual partner: someone who is rather unfit, over-weight, panting to catch is breath, with sweat on his brow just after a short walk... or a fit guy who happens to have a skin pigmentation issue. + you are only 30 or so... this is still very young. And remember, the physical should be secondary anyway. A reliable personality and 'clicking' the with person is the main thing.

I don't know what else to say. Relax and just be yourself. Love yourself and be proud of yourself and your body. I an sure the gym helps keep your mood up. OF course being gay into the bargain is a double whammy... but look at it this way: other gay men know what it is like to be 'different'. So there is a basis for empathy in that. So be optimistic. But even in the gay population there are some total assholes. If you encounter one and he makes you feel bad or rejects you because of your condition, then fuck him (say this in secret to yourself ;) while staying polite). There are many 'fish in the sea'.

Well there it is. Tbh, I'm probably better at giving advice that following it lol. I have some of my own physical insecurities that really hamper me, but I have learned to care less and less. Not easy though.

As they say 'easier said than done' and that is very true.

Good luck! I'm sure a few different guys here will give you their perspectives.
 

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I would never base me being with someone for any reason--from being a different race or has a 3 inch cock or 10--cut or uncut which I have never seen an uncut cock in person..and I surely wouldnt base dating a person with any ailments or illnesses--I am in wv 48 and would ask you out in a heartbeat --because what I look for isnt how a guy looks on outside or size of his cock but to me its more about the man having a sense of humor honest--wont cheat on me makes me happy and glad to be with him andid make him feel same way--

its sad this world worries more about whats on the outside more than the inside--and I can tell you have a big heart--would love to see pics of you even send to me personal message and whether your cock is huge or small I would treat same either way--
so message me personally if want to at least build a friendship
 

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Thank you guys for the answer. Unfortunately, look is very important, at work, in relations, in sex etc. etc. I will not mind for true opinions about man with this skin disorder. Maybe for some guys this problem is disgusting, barrier to try relation or sex. Look is very important for the people, and most guys rates you - handsome, normal or ugly man. I care a lof of my body - trainings are my hobby and passion.

Sometimes I think I'm not good person to be in relationship - I'm adult teenager who need try first sex. Maybe it's bad I dream about first sex with lover with big cock.
 

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Looks play a part, but they are not the most important thing and they are not what makes someone sexy.

Sex appeal comes from within you - your confidence and ease with yourself is primary - and that is what you are lacking right now. It's not your skin that is hanging you up - it is what you think your skin says about you.

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Sexy is in the brain - not in the skin.

I can't tell you how to get there, but the destination is clear. You need to stop looking at your body with contempt and instead embrace it as the unique beauty you bring to the world. That kind of healthy presence and confidence is sexy as hell. And you need to leave behind the defense tactic that you will reject dates before they can reject you.

Let's back up a step, though. Do you have friends? Are you relaxed and open and confident with them?
 
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I agree with topdog--you need to be happy with yourself and not worry about what others think then and only then people will see youre proud of who you are--realize we all have flaws-- no one is perfect---its like a guy I once dated he was so insecure about his penis as he was barely 3 inches long--he was more hooked up on it more than I was--I would tell him how am I supposed to be happy with you if youre not happy with yourself who you are and what you do have to offer--


pick up your head be proud of who you are---if people have issues with how you look then thats their problem--then sooner or later you will see someone that has no problems with it and want to get to know the true you
 

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Looks play a part, but they are not the most important thing and they are not what makes someone sexy.

Sex appeal comes from within you - your confidence and ease with yourself is primary - and that is what you are lacking right now. It's not your skin that is hanging you up - it is what you think your skin says about you.

vitiligo.jpg

Sexy is in the brain - not in the skin.

I can't tell you how to get there, but the destination is clear. You need to stop looking at your body with contempt and instead embrace it as the unique beauty you bring to the world. That kind of healthy presence and confidence is sexy as hell. And you need to leave behind the defense tactic that you will reject dates before they can reject you.

Let's back up a step, though. Do you have friends? Are you relaxed and open and confident with them?

Yes, I have friends but most of them are hetero and have family, kids, wife etc. And they have no time to other activity. I more confident with me after started trainings at the gym... you know your body is changing and more girls or boys look on you.
Maybe my vitiligo is not so visible (only hands and few spots on my face, rest is hidden under clothes) but I've white spots on my cock and ass.
I'd like try first sex but it can be hard undress or say to potential lover that I have white spots. Some vitiligo people from other forums reported about this kind of problems.
In normal life I'm open, talkative, simply guy. I have a few admirers on other gay social media like planetromeo. I chat a lot with them, they want have sex with me but doesn't know about my problem.
Thanks guys for nice words... and the story of this male model with vitiligo is awesome. He was rejected in society... Now, he is veeery hot man. Unfortunately he is not a gay :D
 

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Are you 'out'? It's difficult to have relationships if you're not. But that's not something you can rush.

I suspect there are many older virgins here, some even in their fifties who have never had sex.

Imo, porn addiction can be a barrier too, so browse, but avoid getting hooked on the online world.

How do people react when you are at the swimming pool or changing room? I'd imagine you get a few glances as its a pretty rare condition. How does that make you feel? IT can be a cruel world sometimes but keep your head held high. OR maybe few people even notice? I don't want to presume.
 

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No, my family doesn't know about me. I have conservative family, friends and social around me.
In the summer my white spots on hands are more visible - sometimes people look on me or my hands but I can't tell you what they thinking. When I had white spots on my legs one guy asked me about it. Now I have repigmented my legs and I can wear shorts :) I don't go to swimming pool.
Maybe I'm touchy with my spots ...
At work I use computer, mouse and it's more visible for my buddies, but they didn't asked me about it. My friend is more open and told me about his problem - psoriasis.
I not react for glances. Always I was shy, vitiligo is changing your behavior and habits.
My skin is dark, in the summer get tan very easy and my white spots on hands or face are more visible. And I must do sunlight exposure with my special medicine to get repigmentation.
But when I compare my vitiligo to psoriasis I think I had lucky to get only white spots.
Of course I can buy special camouflage to hide my white spots on my skin-hands, face, maybe cock or ass? But when potential lover would like try suck my cock will feel it.

Yes, I know about older virgin guys... but I'm 30, I feel atractive but If I will want wait to complete cure of my vitiligo probably I will be 50.
 
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Hello, gamecube,

first to say: I admire your courage to tell us about your problem(s)! To tell someone about problems, is often the first step to solve them.

Before your posted, I didn't know about this skin disorder. Just saw some guys with red spots on their skin, don't know if this is something similar. And yes, it is something a bit out of the "normal", what I see every day. But hey, what would be the real problem with it for me or other guys? If I understand it correct, it is neither infectious nor a risc for you or your partners life, and that is the only important thing on it! And you can tell every guy about it, if they ask, or if you see they have a closer look at these spots. And they will ask, if they are interested in you and want to know something about you, because it belongs to you, but is isn't you! You are not your skin disorder, you are a guy with advantages and disadvantages, like every men.

Don't get me wrong, I can understand your thoughts and feelings about your skin, and the possible reactions of some guys about it. But to be honest, I saw both pictures of these vitiligo guys and both guys are goodlooking in my opinion! For sure it is a bit irritating to see in first, but really my first thoughts for both guys were "uh, hot" and the inner need to touch their skin and to stroke them! And I can imagine, a lot of other guys feel and think the same.

You described yourself as a person, I would like to knew better in real life, if I would met you. You are tall, good looking, talkative, fit, have a good penis, etc. So the only problem is between your ears, to make a small joke. ;) The problem are your thoughts about your skin disorder and the fear about the rejection you could get from others. And I can't say: "Hey, no guy will have a problem with it!" Or :"You will attract all guys at once."

For sure there is the risc, that someone could have a problem with it and don't want to fuck you, but this can happen all the guys and girls on earth every time, with or without a skin disorder, because of so many reasons. Perhaps someone doesn't like your big toe, or he doesn't want to have a big penis on you. There are so many possible reasons, someone can reject someone else. Perhaps you ask yourself, what I want to say with that?

In shorter words:
There is every time the risc, that someone will reject you, but that is not necessarily always the blame of your skin disorder or of yourself! And even if it would be the blame of it, you couldn't change it. So don't always think about what could happen! Just try it! :dancing:

I can only agree with the other members, who already told you: be proud of yourself like you are! You are a special guy, with or without your skin disorder!

The first steps could be hard, and perhaps you will have sometimes no luck, but there are so many hot men, you will find the right one for you! And if it is not the first, perhaps it will be the second or the third ... There is a German saying: "Andere Mütter haben auch schöne Töchter/Söhne!" ("Other mothers have also pretty daughters/sons." I hope I translated it understandable.)

But you always have to try, to get the chance to win! :)

Good luck! :thumbs up: :big hug:
 

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I would like ask you guys about date with person like me. What do you think about man with vitiligo? Would you like meet, have sex or be with vitiligo guy?
I'm very curious about it.

I'd like try sex, be bottom. I dream about top with big cock for my first time... I know it's stupid, but always I wanted get big tool.

It wouldn't bother me. I tend to be a little different myself. There are celebs and models with your same condition so it probably doesn't bother people as much as one would think. Try posting some anonymous pictures and see what others think. Can't hurt.
 

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It isn't good idea post my public pics with affected areas with vitiligo ... But you can imagine big dick (like mine) with white spots, or white spots on arse.
 
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It isn't good idea post my public pics with affected areas with vitiligo ... But you can imagine big dick (like mine) with white spots, or white spots on arse.


Let me suggest you to get over it and post your ass or dick pics. I'm pretty sure you're about to get lots of friendly comments... GH members are nice and not focused on white spots, you know ? ;)
 

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It's my dick. Length: 18 cm (7,2''), girth: 14,5 cm (5,7'').

 

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It's my dick. Length: 18 cm (7,2''), girth: 14,5 cm (5,7'').

Wow! The skin tone is the last thing I would be noticing if that were waved in front of me. :thumbs up:
 

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Wow! The skin tone is the last thing I would be noticing if that were waved in front of me. :thumbs up:

:agree: The first thing I noticed, was a curious pulsating in my undies. :rofl:

You have a hot penis, gamecube, and it is so good you showed it to us! :thumbs up:

And even better it would be for me, I could help you out, to get it soft again. :dreaming: :cum: Okay, I am a bad guy. :D :butslap:

Have a great weekend, gamecube! :big hug:
 

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Just chiming in to what topdog and Lamicheval said - that's a powerful cock :thumbs up::thumbs up::thumbs up:
 

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Would it be okay to ask how do black people in general react to vitiligo. Does it have special significance. Are they more aware of it? Or it all the same regardless of race.
 
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