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Hi am new to this and want to get into it more need some help got an email from a guy that is 50 years old and he said that he can teach me to be a good slave/sub and he said he would go easy and go along with me slowly but I just kinda wonder if he is lying or telling the truth I am 19 would like some advice any would be great thanks
 

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Welcome! We are happy to have you here. Thanks for posting.

If you were 30 years old and had some experience and a good group of gay friends that you could turn to, you could size up this offer pretty quickly. He could be great. He could be a serial killer. Or somewhere in the middle.

But at the beginning of your "career", so to speak, you don't yet have the context. You don't know the signals, the pitfalls, and what has succeeded or failed in the past. You need to get your bearings. You are like little Bambi stepping out into the meadow. Everything seems fun and exciting - but Bambi's mother knew the danger signs.

With no mother (or "daddy") to guide you, you must be cautious. Safety comes before sex. Don't jump in to a one-on-one with a stranger where you give up control - yet. You need to lay the groundwork. Concentrate on finding your tribe - your posse. Make friends, hang out, do things together. The social connections are key because that is how you want to find people to play with sexually.

If you want a daddy - hey, I ain't going to stop you. (And all the top daddys say "Yeah"!) But be aware that as a young inexperienced sub placing yourself in the hands of an older experienced top is the most vulnerable thing you can do. Trust me - it can be an incredible, sexy life-altering experience with someone who loves and respects you and is dedicated to your safety and pleasure. But that is the trick - until you find someone that is not just interested in you sexually, but fits the above qualifications, I would hold back and play in less risky situations.

This comes back to the beginning. Now is the time to experiment, learn your way around, make friends and stay safe. As you get your bearings you can take more risks.

Be sexy and well, boy. :big hug:
 

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Welcome to GH, You will find topdog is one of the best here for giving advice.
 

lhardwick69

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with the slave/sub fun you are wanting to have first must happen with someone you can trust--know what limits are---you see this shit going on in porn but its all an act--they talk about it all before actually doing it on film the limits what to do and what not to do..

i was a slave/sub to couple guys over the years first one was actually when i was 19 as well and this guy had me doing stuff that i would think holy shit what have i got myself into..then broke it off with him when he wanted to keep using me as a fuck slavefor all his buddies--after that i got into stuff with a dominant guy and trust me theres a difference in the two..

if this guy is someone you dont know that well first is id get to know him and do stuff with him light and casual test out the water before diving in the pool so to speak..but the thing is any kind of sex is all based on trust if you cant trust the person or people you are going to be with then more than likely you shouldnt be with them..
 

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Welcome to GH, You will find topdog is one of the best here for giving advice.

:agree::agree::agree::agree::agree::thumbs up::thumbs up::thumbs up::thumbs up:
 
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