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Problem with ally/fruit fly

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So I'm having issues with a straight female friend and I'm not really sure how to address it. I've known her almost six years and we met at work, we work at target. For awhile I considered her my best friend but I can't deal with her much anymore. She "loves" the gays, her gays, she says she collects them which I didn't have a problem with at first but with her other behavior I do now. Most of "her gays" are average to masc, she says a lot how " ugh why can't I have any fun gays who'll take me shopping". She calls herself a fruit fly and an ally.The problem is she's saying a bunch of pretty stereotypical things that she should know better then to say or even think. I was going to have a party at my apartment and according to her i'm supposed to have a theme, I had no interest in a theme and she said "ugh and you call yourself gay". Her idea for the theme was also rainbows because obviously I'm supposed to love rainbows, only one other gay person was invited. This was the first time she did this and I just brushed it off.
Anytime there's a new product at work that has a rainbow on it she's all excited and tells me about it because I'm supposed to love it and buy it. Target sells a bunch of pride stuff during the summer, this year I thought most of it was ugly, I would never wear any of it. The worst was this cotton candy pink romper with tiny pride flags on it. When I was telling one of my bosses about it she was near by and said I don't like it because I'm not a "fun gay" whatever that's supposed to mean. We were walking the same direction at work, she had her music on and she asked "shouldn't you be strutting down the runway?" cause that's how all gays should walk or whatever. I don't remember what the conversion was but I did the "gay voice" and her response was an excited "ooo you're finally acting gay". That one made me very angry, like who does this straight bitch think she is? The most recent one is probably the worst thing so far. There's a woman at work who we all thought was a butch lesbian, turns out she's trans and wants to be a man. She told this "friend" who turned around and told me, I didn't ask, I didn't need to know . She stole that from the trans person, it was hers to tell. I hate confrontation and I'm fairly introverted that's why I haven't been able to say anything. At first I brushed it off but now its consistent behavior from her. Am I overreacting? Or am I justified in wanting to strangle her? Sorry for the wall of text and thanks for any advice on what to do
 

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Politely tell her to respect your space and to only speak to you if it is work-related.
Target is a liberal company and if that doesn't work I would go to HR or a manager and find a solution.
 
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