How do you deal with break ups?

[RafaelNoiret]

What do you to get over an ex?

Here's my list:
-That's My Jam Core Ben and Jerry's flavored ice cream.
-Stacy's 'Naked' pita chips and hummus dip.
-Nestlé Strawberry Milk
-Watching sad movies
-Talking to family/friends.

(Backstory: I got dumped two days ago by the first guy I've ever loved..not really sure how to deal with it )

 

[Shelter]

What do you to get over an ex?

Here's my list:
-That's My Jam Core Ben and Jerry's flavored ice cream.
-Stacy's 'Naked' pita chips and hummus dip.
-Nestlé Strawberry Milk
-Watching sad movies
-Talking to family/friends.

(Backstory: I got dumped two days ago by the first guy I've ever loved..not really sure how to deal with it )

Let me take you in my arms Rafael. I have no experience with such terrible event. And I hope I will never learn to know it.

But I think your family and your good friends will rescue you. If you will have a good and strong support in your family you will overcome it after a while.
And yes I think I would watch too sad movies and cry 1000 tears. That will be "normal". But never ever you should lose yourself in your grief and loss.
Look around, if you will be enabled to do it again, and look there will be another one who will love you and you him.

Perhaps you will think these are only dumb and hollow words - I don't know perhaps it will be so - but they have been coming from my heart to you.

Cry, shout and darn him!

My love to you

 

[haiducii]

In time your pain will go away...Time is the healer.

 

[dargelos]

Two things not to do;
get drunk
grab the next available man
or worst of all both at once.
Flooding your has-been with messages on every medium is likely to do no good at all, when you discover that they've all been deleted unread that just rubs salt in the wound.
What you need is a friend who is a good listener. Many people dont know how to listen, just listen, without judgement or interuption, for as long as it takes.
If you can find someone like that, he or she is worth their weight in gold.

 

[frontlemon]

I have not exactly experienced a breakup as in a relationship that was once there but has since broken due to certain cirstances, my experience was the "obvious" breakup of a one sided crush from my part, that broke up as nature took its course . But the way I got over it is: I that whenever I grew sad, I asked myself the question - although it is no sin to expect the best for oneself, why is it that I must always "GET" what I want?
I know that my feeling of love is not same for everyone so, on the hind side, I must also expect that a person may not love me the way he loves some other person. Yes it took me some time to get over it but finally I managed to do so

 

[jw4833]

What do you to get over an ex?

Here's my list:
-That's My Jam Core Ben and Jerry's flavored ice cream.
-Stacy's 'Naked' pita chips and hummus dip.
-Nestlé Strawberry Milk
-Watching sad movies
-Talking to family/friends.

(Backstory: I got dumped two days ago by the first guy I've ever loved..not really sure how to deal with it )

Well...I'm so sorry to hear that but...you may not see it now however...this breakup could be a blessing in disguise. As I've learned from past experiences...many times with breakups such as yours...more than likely...someone better than what you could possibly anticipated does appear in your life and this is when you will see what I'm saying...take care :cheers:

 

[jw4833]

What I basically do in regard to a breakup is that I center myself in the company of really good friends that I know will be there for me and will uplift and get me to start having a good time. Also, depending upon how I may feel later down the line...(and this is what works just for me...because there are times that I do take advantage of this...just saying...)...I have a few guys that have extended the invitation of being "f**k buddies to me whom I've been knowing for quite some time now.

 

[bigsal]

Dear Rafael, for us who are commenting in front of a keyboard is easy to write words, because we are not emotionally involved.

One thing is certain, the break with a person with whom you have been together is always a trauma, even when this takes place in a peaceful manner.

The first few days will be hard, but over time the wounds heal. The speed of healing depends only on you.

Not crying on himself and continues to smile, outside there is a huge world with so many possibilities.

However, as my friend says JW, friends are important and can help to overcome the faster the sad moments.

 

[RafaelNoiret]

Thank you everyone for your replies! I'd taken a break from the PC for a bit. Back now, doing ok :0 good to see everyone.

 

[SophieSweets]

How do I deal with Break Ups?
Pathetically...

 

[paperrev]

Sigh... going(?) through one myself, so... IDK