my first gay event

[hhindd]

Hi Wardell - Sorry to hear about your difficulties, it sounds like You have the interest & need to start an event in your own town.

 

[wardell]

Bublic transport? If you feel you live too far or can't move around are broplems that are solvable. Getting frustrated won't help. Moving, getting car, they have their own broplems, which too are usually solvable by long term planning.

You need to aproach broplems reasonably. Try to find solutions instead of obsticles. If I can't get to my target A, I try to figure how I could get there, or try come up with target B etc.

You can deal with your frustration. Learn about positive coping skills and broplem solving. Find your negative weaknesses, and work away from them. 'Why this shit always happens to me' is negative. It focuses on the bad and negative, and it implays shit and broplems doesn't happen to everyone. The key is how people deal with their shit, and change in those habbits is quite common if one wants and does some learning and self-exploring.

you are right all I do is focus in the bad and negative and that is something I need to fix. I need to stop Complaining and found away around my problem. it will be hard but that just means I just need to work harder

 

[Dendood]

Big thing is to never give and up and stay creative.

Perhaps your mom is unwilling to drive you to a gay event, so part way may be a solution? Get you to public transportation and then you get the last nine yards without any discomfort on her part about going to a gay event.

Perhaps you can contact the event and ask for transportation suggestions. If it is a fund raiser then it is likely someone at an event for helping people may show and interest to help support you in some small way. Heck, you could -or rather should- offer to help cover gas, pass out raffle tickets, whatever to contribute in exchange for getting a lift. Offering to help is a great way to feel empowered. Maybe make new friends...

Use this internet thinggie to help yourself resolve your issues. There's a lot of crap on the internet, but there's a lot of good stuff too.

Enjoy your first gay event when it happens. And enjoy the second, and third. But, keep in mind though what a great gay poet once wrote as a one line poem in a book of poems:
"After an all night of going around to gay bars, I came home and said to myself...."Art."

 

[wardell]

being at the meeting did show me I have a lot to work on, when I first got out of the car my first thought was "if I go in there then they well all know I'm gay and like men" I did not like admitting that I was gay and once inside being next to the flag made me uncomfortable I did not want to be associated with it. it felt wrong. did any one else feel like this when they first came out? if so how did you get over it?

 

[Shelter]

Wardell, please! You have not been in an open market-place and cried out loudly that you are gay. You have been at an "Gay-Event" and all of them there have been gay. Why did you feel uncomfortable? Finally open the door of your closet and come out. You only will do yourself a favor. You are not ill - you "only" are gay! But you must accept it for yourself.

 

[wardell]

Wardell, please! You have not been in an open market-place and cried out loudly that you are gay. You have been at an "Gay-Event" and all of them there have been gay. Why did you feel uncomfortable? Finally open the door of your closet and come out. You only will do yourself a favor. You are not ill - you "only" are gay! But you must accept it for yourself.

I am out. I came out when gay marriage became legal in the u.s but the only one I came out to is my mother. and neighbor there is no one else to come out to I have no other family or friends.

 

[wardell]

I just thought I would give an update. I did not go the new event I did not have the money but I did come up a plan for future events seeing as how I cant drive that far without any one and no one will/can go with me, my mother and I came up with a plan I can't believe I did not see it sooner. she can drive me to were I want to go drop me off then she can wait at the library near by and pick me up when its over.

 

[mmarty]

You are very lucky to have such a kind, supportave and understanding mother! What a blessing!

 

[wardell]

You are very lucky to have such a kind, supportave and understanding mother! What a blessing!

I know she is the BEST:big hug::heart: