Best way to tell someone?

[Otage]

What is the best way to tell someone you like them? I have this situation that I would like to tell someone about my feelings towards him not knowing is he gay or not but I'm gonna do it. How should I do it? I mean honesty is always good way but when I think that how do I start or...:worried:

 

[bluefish22]

Hey Otage,

Just tell him. No master plan needed.

I think it's always be best to be upfront about these kinds of things. Tell him in a way that will leave absolutely no room for confusion (in past experience I've beaten around the bush a little only to make myself kind of confused i.e. "wait! did he know what i meant! was i just rejected! is he maybe into me!" etc.) Be really clear.

I've also found doing these things in person is much better. (you'll probably be pretty nervous about and/or anxious for the response and text/email stuff can feel like an eternity.) If you're too nervous though, the phone might be a better alternative.

 

[Otage]

thanks Bluefish22. i had thought it myself exactly as you told but it somehow feels lot better to hear it from someone else too

 

[yoyo888]

I have been here as well, but still not knowing how to approach the subject. Unfortunately it has been about two years since I have seen this guy at work now, as I sadly no longer work there.

I have been thinking about the idea of texting the guy and just saying in the text "are you gay", but I dont know if this would freak out the guy!

 

[jw4833]

I've been there several times myself...and I do agree that the best approach is honesty in this situation. I don't know how well you really know this guy and the reason I asked because in each of my situations, I waited until each of these guys were comfortable being in my presence because many times, if a guy like being in your company, it will be easier to tell them. Again, I can't tell you if your situation will have the same effects as mine did, but I do know when I felt that I was developing a friendship with these guys although I found myself attracted to them, when I told them about my sexual orientation, each one gave me much more respect because I was willing to share that with them and it made them feel special that I did that...That's all I'm gonna share with you right now...lol

 

[jasonsmith6969]

I have been here as well, but still not knowing how to approach the subject. Unfortunately it has been about two years since I have seen this guy at work now, as I sadly no longer work there.

I have been thinking about the idea of texting the guy and just saying in the text "are you gay", but I dont know if this would freak out the guy!

probably don't want to do the text thing, and if you don't, definitely don't be so blunt lol.

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

You could try the direct approach: "Ya wanna fuck?"

Let me know if this works.:devil:

 

[Otage]

You could try the direct approach: "Ya wanna fuck?"

Let me know if this works.:devil:

If I would do that and the reply would be "Yes" I would brolly freakout and thats that:rofl:

 

[name_1]

I have always told guys that I think are cute from the start that I am gay so I dont have to worry about how to tell him when I eventually have a crush on him. I'll just slip it in when we're hanging out, and just see how it goes from there
Dont worry though if the cute guy just completely freak out at the start when you told him because at least you know then that he is a homophobe and will not fall for him in future... much better than falling for him then realising he is such a person

 

[jeansGuyOZ]

I'll just slip it in when we're hanging out, and just see how it goes from there

(Splutters)

No comment.

 

[blam]

When I find the answer I will let you know