Do you ever foresee parenthood in you life

[AleXXX UK]

In other words, do you ever plan to have kids whether they're biologically your own or adopted? It's tricky and probably easier to answer if youre already partnered and in a steady relationship. Even if you're single, for some people having kids is a Big life goal.

So question do you have kids, if not would you like to, if so would you try for your own biological ones or happy to adapt if that is an option.

 

[toetke1]

When I was about 14years i always wanted to have kids. Get married and raise a couple of kids, a boy and a girl. Then when I was about 19years old something happened to me and the dream about raising a family disappeared forever....

 

[AleXXX UK]

When I was about 14years i always wanted to have kids. Get married and raise a couple of kids, a boy and a girl. Then when I was about 19years old something happened to me and the dream about raising a family disappeared forever....

I don't believe those barriers exist so much these days. I think it really comes down to personal choice. If its what you want then it can be done. It's not easy but the barriers are being pushed further and further each day.

I know a lot of gay men who have children and they couldn't be happier. That was their choice. Others may choose not to have any.

 

[toetke1]

i know what you mean
it's hard to explain here, but i always wanted to have children of my own, not adopted or anything.

 

[brmstn69]

I never wanted kids of my own. But, sometimes life has a way of tripping you up...

Last month my ex (but we're still good friends) moved back in with me. He's been living in Texas for several years now, but has a 5 y.o. son here and wanted to be closer to his kid.
The child's mother has married another man and is expecting, but there have been some severe complications with the pregnancy. It's doubtful the baby will survive, and iffy for the mother as well. She's currently in the hospital with blood clots in her lungs.

If anything were to happen to the mother, my friend would most definitely take custody of his son from the step-father.

Given the expense of being a single father, the fact that I have plenty of room, and that my mother also lives with us and could babysit if needed, it's logical for them to live here...

So, while it may not be my own, there is still the possibility that I will have a child in my life...

 

[trencherman]

I only like them as infants and toddlers.

 

[bigsal]

To have children, including adopted children, and give them love and attention, I think it's the most amazing experience that a human being can experience.

Sure it takes a very long engagement, because parenting is a commitment more difficult to deal with in life. It is not an easy task.

But I gladly would approach this challenge.

Maybe I'm not up to it, but I have so much love to give (hopefully that is enough).

 

[joejoe10]

Never never never never never never gonna happen. My nieces and nephews are just about all I can handle, and there are times that I can't even tolerate them.

 

[HettoreConti]

I do think childrinz are adorable, and I would love to have a couple of 'em -perhaps in the future, alongside a handsome, funny and loyal husband, a beautiful house, a job...-. However, it would be most irresponsible of me to drag a perfectly innocent little human being to the absolute depressive stupor that my life is.

Not every tree is fit to have sprouts of his or her own.

 

[tonka]

When I was parenting age, a gay parent would have been considered an abomination.

I am lucky that there are lots of cousins with kids around. And I have had the pleasure of them growing up. For a while it was lots of graduations; now lots of weddings.
At a wedding a few weeks ago, my cousin's adorable gay son did a reading at his sister's wedding.

 

[logan222]

Oh, I definitely want to have kids, but not soon. Maybe in my early 30s.

 

[nadare80]

having a kind is something that definitely will make me happy
but the responsibility of having a kid is kinda overwhelming to me, and to find someone who would raise a kid with me, that's another overwhelming thing

 

[joshp23]

definitely want kids one day.

 

[alexfot55]

No,thanks. I have all the "kids" I want in my life .All I have to do is wait for their coming of legal age (somewhere in the world)...

 

[AleXXX UK]

A male nurse friend and I were talking about the idea of sperm donation to childless couples. I really like the idea. If I were to have kids I'd want them before I hit my 40s and the idea that a childless couple were raising them in a good home would be great. As much as I love kids, I really enjoy spoiling my nephews and nieces, having my own would not entirely fit my lifestyle. That might sound selfish and wanting to have your cake but its how I feel. If I did father another couples kids I would be happy for the kids to know of me and I'd be happy to be a distant 'uncle' never taking the direct place of the father. It would be up to the family to decide and I wold support that. I think my precondition would but that they'd have to be honest with the kids about their birth (in time). I do love kids, taking them to McDonald's, bowling, the cinema, park all the fun stuff for maybe up to two,hours. But the daily school run, the inconvenience of remembering to feed them, wash them, put them to bed and put up with their annoyance all day every day.... I don't think I'm too keen on that. Also I think to "actually" raise kids you really do need to do it with a strong supporting partner, gay or straight, I don't think raising kids on your own is a good idea especially if you're working. Have any of you thought of being donors?

 

[cacc]

I'd like to have kids someday

 

[Sinnerr]

I don't refuse this possibility. I would want a kids if I would have my Mr.Right and He would want. But for myself I don't need it I think.
Yesterday we had family meeting so I've seen again my youngest niece Zuzana. She is 10 moths old and she's not only able to walk - she's even able to run! She is really wild and I really admire my brother and his gf that they're able to nonstop checking if she isn't doing something dangerous. Of course it's fantastic to see such small kid full of energy and joy. But it's also great responsibility, lot of stress and long time financial costs as well.

 

[Otage]

Would be my nightmare to have kids. I can't stand kids, kittens, puppies or that other "cute" crap. And of course when raising them... has nothing to do with the fact that are they cute/fun/greatest-experience-of-your-life or not. Ball and chain. And the high pitched voices of children... gives me the chills. Love horror movies and stuff, but children... there's somenthing very very very evil about them

 

[AleXXX UK]

Would be my nightmare to have kids. I can't stand kids, kittens, puppies or that other "cute" crap. And of course when raising them... has nothing to do with the fact that are they cute/fun/greatest-experience-of-your-life or not. Ball and chain. And the high pitched voices of children... gives me the chills. Love horror movies and stuff, but children... there's somenthing very very very evil about them

Oh come on, look how happy elton John and David furnish are with Zac.

 

[XMan101]

If it's your own you think differently

But if it's other peoples I'd rather be in a room full of rotweilers )