HELP: Cute guy i like at school invited me to his dorm

[toner]

Since you are go to his room, observe it, you'll never know whats lying around a dildo, attitude mag, etc. Also ask a lot of questions. Is this your first your in college? Did I see you at that club/bar? Be ambiguous. Are you a top or bottom? But make sure he has a bunk bed. If thinks don't work out, and he just wants you to join his Bible study group, just chalk things up to life. You will find someone. Good Luck on your date.

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

I was planning on going in slim sweatpants.....(its easy to take off, or show off your underwear)

but i dont think hes quite the "fashion guy" i mean he dresses nice but nothing like overdone so i dont wanna show up with a Tom Ford suit on....what do u suggest?

I don't mean something fancy just like something sexy that you might wear to a club or pride. pic an outfit and take a photo and post it if you like and see what people think.

i mean if hes a bible freak then wouldn't he feel awkward around me then? i was thinking of asking him if hes texting his girlfriend when he looks at his phone, but thats a bit stalkerish?

Depends on how you phrase it. Like if you say something like "Girlfriend won't stop nagging you with the texts?" "I know how that is."

 

[bigsal]

The anticipation is killing me....he does have a nice ass almost as good as mine lol

I really just wanna know if hes gay or he just wants to be friends

but i dont just want sex....i mean sex is fun and all but theres so mant guys to have sex with, i wanna have a boyfriend or really close friend that i can walk around, eat, study...talk to. i dont think i would go through this much mind games with myself if i just wanted sex

Should even the birth of a beautiful friendship, I think it's positive.

Friendships "real ones" last a lifetime.

The most important thing is to be yourself, and as he said topdog, tell him right away that you're gay.

 

[nonotoy]

Because you are at the beginning of a hopefully meaningful friendship, honestly be yourself at your best. It will be if it's meant to be. No need to pretend as someone whom you think will impress him. Leave your expectations and anxieties at the door and go with the flow. Relax. I wish you all the best.

 

[maxx11]

I agree that you should let him know you are gay asap.
There's only a few things can happen.
He turns away and so you move on.
He says 'thats Ok, I still want to be friends with you.
OR
He says 'I know, lets go for it'

Good Luck

 

[redbones111]

Because you are at the beginning of a hopefully meaningful friendship, honestly be yourself at your best. It will be if it's meant to be. No need to pretend as someone whom you think will impress him. Leave your expectations and anxieties at the door and go with the flow. Relax. I wish you all the best.

Ditto. I must emphasize DO NOT DRESS UP, it's a study date, not a date date (until you know otherwise). Wear your standard street clothes and tread carefully.

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Ditto. I must emphasize DO NOT DRESS UP, it's a study date, not a date date (until you know otherwise). Wear your standard street clothes and tread carefully.

Dressing up as in suit in tie no I agree not the right thing but jeans and an old ratty tee shirt not quite right ether.

 

[redbones111]

Dressing up as in suit in tie no I agree not the right thing but jeans and an old ratty tee shirt not quite right ether.

What would you define as ratty? And why not jeans?

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

No jeans are fine I just meant as a whole outfit jeans and a tee shirt with holes or stains wouldn't be my first choice.

 

[RefixnarcisM]

Just wear like you always wear at the college. That will make him more comfortable around because he always see you that way...except if your college needs you to suit up, then you should go down with jeans and t-shirt. Make it simple, clean and respectable. You're 18, you dont need to look so formal but not to carefree also.
Remember to observe every detail in his dorm, secretly of course.
You mentioned he always texting someone? And you wonder is that her girlfriend? Ask him with little bit joke-ish like "Whose the lucky girl?" dont showed that you a bit annoyed by that text even if he looks annoyed. Act normally and comment moderately.
Wish you luck!

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Just wear like you always wear at the college. That will make him more comfortable around because he always see you that way...except if your college needs you to suit up, then you should go down with jeans and t-shirt. Make it simple, clean and respectable. You're 18, you dont need to look so formal but not to carefree also.
Remember to observe every detail in his dorm, secretly of course.
You mentioned he always texting someone? And you wonder is that her girlfriend? Ask him with little bit joke-ish like "Whose the lucky girl?" dont showed that you a bit annoyed by that text even if he looks annoyed. Act normally and comment moderately.
Wish you luck!

Thanks, you have such clever ideas.....im such a square, never know whats the best thing to say....

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Since you are go to his room, observe it, you'll never know whats lying around a dildo, attitude mag, etc. Also ask a lot of questions. Is this your first your in college? Did I see you at that club/bar? Be ambiguous. Are you a top or bottom? But make sure he has a bunk bed. If thinks don't work out, and he just wants you to join his Bible study group, just chalk things up to life. You will find someone. Good Luck on your date.

waitttt, what does a bunk bed indicate?

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Depends on how you phrase it. Like if you say something like "Girlfriend won't stop nagging you with the texts?" "I know how that is."[/B][/SIZE][/COLOR][/FONT][/QUOTE]

if i let him assume ive had a girlfriend then wont he stray away from making a move? i mean we are both quite shy.....at first at least.

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Because you are at the beginning of a hopefully meaningful friendship, honestly be yourself at your best. It will be if it's meant to be. No need to pretend as someone whom you think will impress him. Leave your expectations and anxieties at the door and go with the flow. Relax. I wish you all the best.

I get really anxious around him....plus ive barley had any sleep these few days and he just stares right into your eyes when he talks so its kinda awkward because i tend to look down a lot. Thanks though

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Depends on how you phrase it. Like if you say something like "Girlfriend won't stop nagging you with the texts?" "I know how that is."

if i let him assume ive had a girlfriend then wont he stray away from making a move? i mean we are both quite shy.....at first at least.

True he might think your into girls. when your really into him. Maybe you should wear something that tell your orientation with out you like saying it like a rainbow armband or something.

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

True he might think your into girls. when your really into him. Maybe you should wear something that tell your orientation with out you like saying it like a rainbow armband or something.

I'm not that kinda guy.....i wear mostly clothes from club monaco or zara

 

[logan222]

Interesting scenario. So, this study date still hasn't happened? I'm anxious to know how it turns out.

A few things that some people have already touched. Definitely don't assume he's gay just because he's in ballet. Also, definitely don't assume he's not gay because he's in a Bible class. I actually took some religious studies and Bible courses in college specifically because I wanted to know what the Bible really says about social issues (such as homosexuality), and it was actually quite enlightening. I met a few other people who were also gay and there for similar reasons, so don't cross off the possibility that he may be in that Bible class for a reason like that. I know that I feel a lot more empowered now that I can regurgitate Scripture too to make the fundamentalists look like fools!

Good luck with the study date. It reminds me of when I was in college. A few girls (some quite hot) often invited me to "study dates" in their dorm rooms. It was mostly because they knew I was the class nerd and could really tell them what to study, but some of them wanted to get frisky with this nerdy boy...too bad for them...lol (it's a shame that it was never a guy)

 

[RefixnarcisM]

Both of you shy because you doesn't know him for that long, he either. Try talk many things like what sport you like, whose musician you like or even talk about the election (if you live in America). Try different thing. If he get the bait, look interested and talk much about something he like but you still dont know much about it, try gather many information on the Internet.
About that eye connection thingy he did, try train by yourself in the front of the mirror, I know that the reality might not work that easy, but at least it help you get a bit better to try to look at him in the eyes. Wish you luck!!

 

[AleXXX UK]

I definitely think you should drop some 'are you single' comments. If he's comfortable he may respond about his ex. All you need is that 'he' or 'she' reference and you'll know whether you're on the right track. I hope it's what you hope it is and that it works out!

 

[Sk8erBoiZach]

Interesting scenario. So, this study date still hasn't happened? I'm anxious to know how it turns out.

A few things that some people have already touched. Definitely don't assume he's gay just because he's in ballet. Also, definitely don't assume he's not gay because he's in a Bible class. I actually took some religious studies and Bible courses in college specifically because I wanted to know what the Bible really says about social issues (such as homosexuality), and it was actually quite enlightening. I met a few other people who were also gay and there for similar reasons, so don't cross off the possibility that he may be in that Bible class for a reason like that. I know that I feel a lot more empowered now that I can regurgitate Scripture too to make the fundamentalists look like fools!

Good luck with the study date. It reminds me of when I was in college. A few girls (some quite hot) often invited me to "study dates" in their dorm rooms. It was mostly because they knew I was the class nerd and could really tell them what to study, but some of them wanted to get frisky with this nerdy boy...too bad for them...lol (it's a shame that it was never a guy)

where do you meet guys?