How do you finish a relationship?

[Silas]

If you got a crush on anybody, and you realise that it never will happen, that (s)he will love you like you do love him/her... How do you finish such an unhappy relationship... Is there any smooth way, that it does not hurt? If anybody knows something, please let me know.

 

[Floddr]

All I can say:

 

[goejavin]

yea I'm sorry Silas but you really need to just ride it out...there's the usual suggestions...keep busy, get a hobby, be with people, blah, blah, blah, but none of that works...no matter what you do your reminded of that person. There's just no magic solution. Accept it as fact, keep doing what you always do and the time will come, hopefully sooner than later, that the feelings will diminish...Hang in there, Silas :hug:

 

[Silas]

I hate it :'(... All of that... I can not resist the feelings... It's not fair...

 

[greekhot]

That is really true...i agree!!

Although love is a hard word to say...also crush and love are really far one from the other...are you sure that you love him??Have you experienced love with another person and got hurt??Maybe that is the reason that now you feel really bonded to a person that you "think" you love but in fact you don't...and you should keep in mind that crushes come and go...you will be fine in a while

 

[Silas]

You don't know what I would have been ready to do for this one person... I know what love is, and I know what a crush is... And yes, this is love. It is such intensif... It does hurt. It is true. The feelings are true, too... Yeah I know, that it's in a while ok. But give me a little advice to make this time shorter.

 

[Thor]

its not easy..i was in love like that to when i was a teenager...time doesn't heal all, but it does make you think about other things...so keep on truckin along babe

 

[JonnyFantastico]

There is no tried and true ending to a relationship that isn't working out. We all get those; they happen to everyone. It's sad, there's pain... it sucks, but it's natural. In truth, you have to really ask yourself a couple of questions:

Is this the type of pain that we, as a couple can get over?
Is this situation truly something I want to continue being in?

In the end, someone or both of the people will get hurt. If it's truly time to move on, listen to your heart and make that decision. It's better to deal with that hurt and sever the ties rather than possibly remain in that relationship that may not get better. To tweak a Tyler Perry line that has stayed with me, "Sometimes, we stay in relationships that everything and anything is the world is trying to tell us to break away from."

In the end, it's a tough decision, but it is one you must make on your own. I wish you the best of luck, Silas; but I'll end it on this: at the end of the day, you have to love yourself more and realize which is the best situation for you.

 

[greekhot]

Hmmm...Silas there is not a recipe for somebody to get over his love...but i think that if you give the opportunity to another person to win your heart i think that he/she will be able to help you get over it faster...

 

[JonnyFantastico]

^^I slightly disagree with this one. Let me explain: it's more than fine to start to like someone else or even do some slight flirting; but to jump into another relationship right after an ended one isn't good for either involved. One person might (and more realistically, will) still be hung up on their ex and is likely to put their past issues onto their new relationship. The other will solely fall under the "rebound" stigma. Yes, everyone is someone's rebound, but there should be a decent amount of time to heal your own heart before you attempt to look elsewhere for love or companionship.