When and how was your "Coming Out"?

[DAI]

I came out when i was 15 y.o or so, all my friends already knew that and they were waiting for me to tell them I think my mom knows i'm gay too but i didn't know how to come out to her so at the end of my college, i've decided to tell her, all i think about at that moment is she's gonna cry or something, but she gave me a smile and hugged me, that was the best day of my life

 

[mathieuvince]

My coming out was late (just after my twin brother getting married)... I was probably 25 years old already. It was in a restaurant in Brussels, and it just came out (could not take it anymore). Both my parents were very cool about it. Such a relief.

 

[Tatort429]

If I comeout people will murder me. Im not joking

In my case, If I come out I'll "murder" people, in a sense. You know what I mean, some of the closest and dearest to me will have heart attacks, relentless crying, ...
So, better keep it all in the closet for close relatives, and selectively out of the closet for some friends.
A tough cookie, I know but what isn't in life, and especially in gay life.

 

[alant]

xman101: my story is much like yours...

problem for me is that everyone i knows sees sexuality as either 100% gay or straight, nothing in between. it ultimately took me deciding that i am nothing but Alan, and that it's ok to be myself!

fortunately being in NY you have a ton of really supporting, diverse people. i definitely have friends that cannot really be themselves at home and it's so sad

 

[kupenda]

My brother busted me by asking if a friend I'm seeing in another city is more than just a friend. I told him the truth. He said it was so cool to have a gay brother.....

 

[slam365]

Coming out to Dad

I came out quite late at age 23 to my Sister and my Mother. They were fine but told my Catholic Dad and was asked to leave and never come back again. While packing (and sobbing) I heard this crash in the living room and went in to find my Dad on the floor with my samll Mum standing over him saying '' he is my son and as long as i am alive he will always be welcomed here''. She had just boxed him and at home i stayed. We are fine now and Dad totally accepts it all now but what a sliding doors moment.

 

[Seiji]

If I comeout people will murder me. Im not joking

Almost the situation here..
I mean, I have amost sure that in the ends some of my family will accept it well (or not..), but I don't even like to think about it...
My family see this stuff, like wrong..
I have 3 brothers that are pretty against it.
No one knows about this side o me, I don't find any friend that I can really trust about it anyway..

Do what? This is the life...

 

[XMan101]

Almost the situation here..
I mean, I have amost sure that in the ends some of my family will accept it well (or not..), but I don't even like to think about it...
My family see this stuff, like wrong..
I have 3 brothers that are pretty against it.
No one knows about this side o me, I don't find any friend that I can really trust about it anyway..

Do what? This is the life...

Well I hope this forum helps you and others in a similar position to at least have a little space where you can be yourself. Even if nobody is physically close by it's always comforting to have others you can relate to, and perhaps become good long distance friends eventually

 

[zachalaska]

I was living in DC at the time with my first lover. My parents came for a weekend visit... being just out of the Air Force I introduced him as a roommate which they bought, I think. After dinner on night we stopped back at my parents hotel room. While I was in the bathroom, my very wasted lover announced to my mother that he was just that my lover.... Surprise... when I came back into the room I had no choice but to admit it... It took awhile but things eventually smoothed out with the family and all is well.

 

[Seiji]

@xman101
Thanks!
I think, theres times that a "distance friend" is more a real friend than that you are close.

 

[232356]

I came out to my gay friends first, then my best friend who was/is in love with me, then a few other close friends, then my sister, and I'm waiting to tell my stright roommate/best friend and parents. It all started after my first year in college

 

[Fernando Oliveira]

My coming out was a little late. was when probably with 22 years old already. It waswith a boy from São Paulo City, and it just came out not take Both my parents didn´t know yet.

 

[tennisblackout]

my coming out hasnt happen yet, im waiting for the right time to tell my parents they will never be able to have grandchildren lol. i dont want to cause its what they want the most but i cant really change who i am, so one of these days ill have a sit down and tell them the truth.

 

[Bill-Sucks]

My friends found out when they saw me making out with a guy at a party (kinda when I finally decided I was ready) and then I told my Mum a couple weeks later when I was drunk. I had planned on telling her the next day but it felt right to tell her then. And then she told my sisters and so on and so forth.

 

[boogieman]

Told my dad when he was drunk. Bad idea because he went around telling everyone about how he had a gay son. He went on a bender for a few days, drinking non stop, seemed really depressed as well. But then he got over it. He is disappointed, no doubt. Everyone else handled it well.

I never really thought I needed to 'come out', because I didn't think of it as a big deal. But I just thought it was time my dad knew. I didn't make a big deal out of it, I just told him straight. I actually felt sick at first, and regretted it straight after. But it is fine now.. although I'm not comfortable talking to people about guys I like. That still feels a bit weird to me.

Even though I am 100% sure I am gay, and have felt this way for years, there is still a small part of me that worries 'what if I'm wrong?' Because I am now out of the closet, so there's no going back in. I have no interest in girls. Lots of interest in guys. But I do wonder if maybe I am just going through a phase.. maybe I'm still in denial.

 

[simmy]

bit odd that one!

 

[umpalumpa]

I think the reaction is pretty common , sadly, but most dads have more a problem with coming outs than others. Also my dad wasn't "happy" with my coming-out, but he got over it.

 

[blackdicks]

still waiting to come out
or have I ever been IN?

 

[colinva1]

was over 20 yrs ago to friends then family

 

[slimjim]

:thumbs up: