Word of comfort for those in need

[Otage]

What would you say to those, who feel that everyone they ever fall in love with, will turn out straight and ruin their friendship? And to those who feel, they are destined to live alone cause there's just no change of love, you just have to seddle for somenthing?

 

[tonka]

The main thing I would say is...live your life. Lead a good, interesting life whatever happens with relationships. Some of us will find a lifelong love and it'll be great. Most of us will be coupled, single, dating , hooking up, sick of looking.
But if the other parts of your life are pretty solid, those ups and downs are not so bad.

 

[Sinnerr]

I'd say them cheer up!

 

[AleXXX UK]

What would you say to those, who feel that everyone they ever fall in love with, will turn out straight and ruin their friendship? And to those who feel, they are destined to live alone cause there's just no change of love, you just have to seddle for somenthing?

I really really hate this attitude.

If you have a true friend and like them then tell them in a flattering non threatening way. This is not the 1950s. They will find it flattering if theyre not interested. If they are homophobes and want nothing to do with you tell them to F off they're not worth being friends with.

If you want it you got to get up and get it.

I think it's sad and tragic when people are too scared to go for the prize. Your loss at the end of the day. I don't do sympathy for people who refuse to help themselves.

 

[Tjerk12]

If we could perfectly organize our brain, things would be easy. But things are not as simple as that. Sometimes people can be prisoners of their own brain. Whatever they try, they are not able to adjust things as they wish. I think that fear can be a symptom of how you are, without being a symptom of a disease. Being Gay is a symptom of how you are.
Feelings are a strange phenomenon. I know a married couple who really are rich, but never felt happy. When she felt depressed, she often visited me, just for a talk. To hear my positive view on things. It always helped her, it made her stop crying. But only for a short time. Sometimes you are who you are. But nothing wrong with sharing and caring.

 

[Otage]

I really really hate this attitude.

If you have a true friend and like them then tell them in a flattering non threatening way. This is not the 1950s. They will find it flattering if theyre not interested. If they are homophobes and want nothing to do with you tell them to F off they're not worth being friends with.

If you want it you got to get up and get it.

I think it's sad and tragic when people are too scared to go for the prize. Your loss at the end of the day. I don't do sympathy for people who refuse to help themselves.

Well I mean mostly with situtations, that you like someone as a friend and also in that other sense, and you think there might be chance they could like you also the other way. When you tell them this, ofc they don't act homophobe, but their behaviour towards you changes.

And it seems that everyone you end up liking, ALWAYS are straight. And then the ones who are not, seem to be drunken people who are harrasing me in trains smoking room:?

And ofcourse you are right with your comments about this attidute, I feel the same mostly. But sometimes it get's me down, and maybe the only mistake then is to feel sorry for yourself and seek... well hope, comfort. Or just to open up It's always good to get many opinnions cause it helps you to consider your situation from another persons point of view and you are not so blinded by your current emotions, so thanks all:heart: